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Culo by name....

by Guapaculoproductions
12:21am - 7th April, 2008

....culo by nature?

I got a problem, had a problem for a while now which I've chosen to neglect and not known who to speak to - so instead I'm just going to paste my issue(s) on here for our regular AiM readers and our ghost readers to review and get appropriate and no doubt inappropriate suggestions, plus some deserved 'piss-take' in my direction (Shekhar, Mola, Thugs!) for having the stupid desire to post this thread.

The problem I have is your classic 'like someone but should I go for it' given the signs I've got so far?

I've been strictly friends with this beautiful girl for several years - we've been there for each other
during the good and bad times and have a mutual respect. However over the last several months something has changed inside me that's telling my heart and soul to do something but my mind is saying hold back jackass and let the feeling slide, find someone else and don't ever let your feelings come in the way of a friendship.

I'm sure you've all come across the feeling where you will have a friend and wondered what would it be like
to be with them intimately? Perhaps that's exactly what I'm suffering at present. Some form of withdrawal symptom of not having what I want in my life....the curly haired Asian girl with the sexist smile.

Than again maybe it's nothing like that. Have you ever met someone for a brief moment as a young kid and been mesmerized by their beauty?

Has fate ever given you the opportunity of meeting them several years later to become good friends with?

Tell me something, have you ever had a dream, a dream no-one's ever spoken to you about, only for the person you are attracted to sharing those exact details with you? I think that's what got me. Or perhaps I'm losing the plot in my young age, if so what's the best medication to be taking?

During the past several months we've spent more time together, got drunk and flirted with each other - the odd goodnight kiss on the lips, nothing wrong with that and I know it means nothing, just two friends sharing a kiss.

What's got me is what happened two nights ago and no matter how I look at it I'm left with the same thought......'HUH '

We have drinks with friends, it's a great night, she drops me off, we kiss on the cheeks and before I leave she stops me by holding onto me and places a soft kiss on my lips.

What do I do....get out the car, say goodnite and walk off.

Have I just been a culo or done the best thing? Am I reading too much into a perfectly innocent kiss ?

I shouldn't have posted this thread, should I ?

01:14am - 7th April, 2008thuglife

Damn GP, it's good to see that Culos at your age still have a thing for the fairer sex! Only joking, seems you got it bad hommie!

Its a tricky situation, I reckon if you like the girl, go for it!

But have a strategy....find out if she really does like you first! There's nothing worse than a prick teaser or an attention seeker, they love to toy with a man's emotions!

So today I will play the role of your uncleji and advise that you should do a lot of fact finding and signal reading (body language) before you act, and at which time you do decide to act, make your self and your intentions clear to her (no, 'i want to fuck' u will not do...) be a gentleman, treat her like a lady.

Make that special effort with her that she knows that your keen, then you can gauge her reaction if she truly is interested, if she is.... proceed to step 2!

Oh also, be sure to check she her glasses, dentures et al when you go for it! Catch her at a good time....and dont forget the final courtesy.....get her back to the home before 10! haaha soz, couldnt resist!

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01:12pm - 7th April, 2008addictive

if she made a point of holding you back, she obviously wanted more... it's her in the piccie isn't it culo...

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06:38pm - 7th April, 2008mola ram

In matters of the heart, all the boys need to drop their weapons and act as one!

Guapa, first off don't beat yourself up, all is not lost.

By what you say, I think she feels the same way. But even if she doesn't, I think you should be honest with her.

I know you might think that you will 'lose her friendship' if she doesn't have feelings for you. but look at it this way:

You need to know. Because if you don't then she's gonna be in your head/heart and hold you back from feeling anything for someone else

If she says 'no', then nothing is lost. You'll move on, find someone else and eventually when you're over her, you can be friends again.

To be honest I reckon she's probably wondering why you didn't respond when she kissed you.. and worse may think that you're not interested.

So you need to act. And act FAST!

Get on the phone to her, casually ask her out for a drink. Now be prepared she may say no. Simply because she's feeling rejected.

Anyway, once your with her and it's the end of the night. You kiss her... properly!

If it were me, I'd meet her and apologise... for not kissing her back properly and suggest we start off where we left off. But hey, that's me.

Make sure flowers and chocolate are involved in your night out.

B;less ya matey. keep us updated.
I think you should

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07:04pm - 7th April, 2008Isis

She definitely likes you.
What she did a couple of nights ago is her way of putting the ball into ur court. If your not sure of what to do next you could always show her this thread.......

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08:37pm - 7th April, 2008bride2be

I think its great that you posted this - after all a problem shared and all that.

I think there is nothing wrong with you telling her exactly how you feel, if she's a mate (and feels nothing for you) then in time you will just go back to being friends again and you will find someone else.

There's no point thinking about it further than that, or worrying about losing her as a friend...you'll only drive yourself mental and over think the situation. Just go for it.

We only regret the things we don't do, apparently.

Good luck!

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09:54pm - 7th April, 2008noodle

I like the idea of a friendship growing into a relationship, if that makes any sense.

No point in thinking about 'what ifs'; seize the day, I say.

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11:29pm - 7th April, 2008shekhar1973

storm in my son....youre onto a winner here! ;-D

REMEMBER THOUGH, to keep your head together WHEN youre both together.

(i bet robert plant never had this problem...moan, etc)

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11:32pm - 7th April, 2008shekhar1973

seriously though, everyone here has given some very good adivce, so as much as id love to mock...i cant.

relationships can be hard work to get into and out of in the event things arent working out, so i can understand your hesitation, but nothing ventured and NOTHING gained.

now back to...

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11:34pm - 7th April, 2008shekhar1973

In through the out door - led zeppelin

not their best work, but a very vibed up and clean, well recorded sound..top!

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11:35pm - 7th April, 2008shekhar1973

oh fuck, wrong thread

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03:38pm - 8th April, 2008Raja

Duuuuude! Now this is MY kinda thread!!!!

Now havin had some experience in such issues in life there are some very important issues you wanna deal with 1st bro;

a) he's always been drunk when she hits on u, or intimate etc (from what I gather) now although alcohol may release inhibitions, it also makes one not see much sense apparently, so ask yourself, how many times she's given those signals when she's sober?

b) How close are you two as mates realistically? If your both mega open, explorative etc then I would say your in the clear with this bit. If not, then give it a lil more time.

Bro, the bestest thing you can do is be open with her, but the way you do it is FAR more important. By the way she feels comfortable bein intimate with you, does indicate (as the girls above have agreed) that she obviously likes you to some degree too.

I remember meeting up a babe after many many years. She was waaaaay outta my league at school (I was a proper minging ugly duckling....even the mingers wouldnt date me) then I met her a few years ago, suddenly there was an instant attraction and things developed....so I completely understand your feelings bro. If anything, your excitement and emotions must be on huuuuuge levels. I know mine were....

If you wanna discuss battle plan, tactics etc, give us a ring.....I mean it old man! :-D

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03:39pm - 8th April, 2008Raja

*typo on point a) SHE'S

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03:42pm - 8th April, 2008Raja

But to answer your point GP, no you weren't a culo for walking off that night. If anything, if you responded adequately and left a kind of mystery in her mind about that moment and how it 'could' have developed....

Biggest tip ever: NEVER appear desperate or too willing bro, they hate that shit lol. Hold some back dude, like you did. If anything, I wanna know what she did the following day!!!!!

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02:07pm - 9th April, 2008mola ram

... and I'd just like to add that if she doesn't recipricate your feelings...

Find a girl who looks like her. Shag her senceless. And then leave her the next day.

Works every time (sniff!)


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